Regardless of what's happening in your life right now you deserve to feel understood, supported, and equipped. Maybe you've noticed you're anxious more than you're not, or you just don't enjoy life the way you used to. Maybe you've been through something awful, or are grieving the loss of someone you love. I can help.

I love working with people from all stages of life including, teens, young adults, and couples. I specialize in anxiety, depression, grief, life transitions, self-esteem, and relationship issues.
No matter what's going on in your world I would love to help you navigate life's challenges and pursue growth and wellness in your life.

Dealing with life’s many obstacles alone can be challenging. My hope is that I can help support you along that journey. Togetherness is described as a strength and courage. As an associate marriage and family therapist with a multicultural background and first a generation American I have been educated in a multitude of life’s perspective views. With over five years of experience working with CBT, PCT, SFBT, and narrative therapeutic modalities I’ve successfully worked with substance use disorder and behavioral health. My therapeutic process is person centered my goal is to walk along the side of you in support of your journey.

I am a compassionate therapist committed to guiding AAPI and BIPOC women through the challenges rooted in cultural values, family conflicts, anxiety, depression, exploring intersectionality, and intergenerational trauma. As a South Asian American, I bring a culturally sensitive approach that fosters a connection with my clients. As a therapist, I utilize Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) therapy to support individuals in processing and overcoming the impact of traumatic experiences. Trauma is not always the byproduct of significant life altering events but can occur from small events like chronic stress, bullying, discrimination, dysfunctional family dynamics, microaggression, and constant exposure to challenging situations. EMDR involves a structured approach, helping clients identify and reframe/reprocess negative beliefs and emotions associated with past traumas. I also utilize therapeutic frameworks as Humanistic Person-Centered approach, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), and Strengths Based approach.

As a therapist in the community for over 16 years, I have worked with a range of people across the spectrum helping them to achieve their goals and live their best life. I look forward to talking with you further to begin your wellness journey.

It is my practice, to encourage each client to discover their own inner resources and strengths while gaining personal empowerment. Whether you seek recovery from trauma, depression or anxiety, I will provide you the tools and skills to enhance your self-esteem, develop relationships and establish healthy boundaries and communication. As you learn to cope with life transitions and changes we will incorporate mindfulness based techniques, and challenge maladaptive thoughts and beliefs by approaching solutions to engage stressful situations, you will reduce emotional suffering.

At Wilde Counseling, we believe that stability often comes when we brave the wilderness within and around us. With an emphasis on nervous system support, we help our clients heal from traumatic events, past or present, and experience more connection in their lives. We work with clients to make sense of attachment wounds, build inner trust and self-compassion, and move past the relational patterns that have kept them stuck. It is a privilege to enter hard spaces with you and offer a safe place to land.

Do you feel a persistent sense of unease? Exhausted from the pressures of life? Frustrated with how your past is impacting you? Overwhelmed by the thought of starting therapy? Often our struggles alone feel unbearable, and the idea of addressing them only adds more stress. But you can get to where you'd like to be. It just takes learning to endure the discomfort of the growth and healing process. I am dedicated to helping you walk through the discomfort —to gain self insight, to make changes in your life, to feel more at ease, and attain your goals.

I am in network with Regence and Premera.

Dr. Bilka tailors her therapeutic approach to fit each client’s unique needs. She integrates several therapeutic approaches including cognitive behavioral, interpersonal, EMDR and relational techniques to provide comprehensive and dynamic treatment. Dr. Bilka’s clinical interests include gay/lesbian/bisexual/transgender/questioning issues, adolescent and adult life transitions, relationship concerns, trauma and abuse. She specializes in treating teenagers and young adults dealing with mood disorders, anxiety disorders, and trauma. Dr. Bilka is trained in Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) therapy, which has been proven highly effective for the treatment of trauma as well as with many other issues. She incorporates warmth, empathy, humor and insight-oriented methods into her practice. Dr. Bilka views the therapeutic process as a collaborative one in which the therapist offers understanding and support, providing the client with the space to develop a deeper understanding of his or her self and the courage to work toward change.

My passion is working with the LGBTQ community and with couples. I have worked in many settings and in my own LCSW counseling and consulting practice since 1987. I am originally from the East Coast and came to California, originally the Bay Area for 30 years and San Diego for the past 9, and have worked in medical, acute rehabilitation and outpatient psychiatry for the majority of my career.
I am trained in the Gottman model of couple's therapy, in DBT, CBT, ACT, Trauma resiliency, Prolonged Exposure therapy and CPT.
My most extensive training in the last 7 years has been with gender affirming care.

My desire is to come alongside you during life transitions, relationship issues and stressful times to provide a supportive and caring environment that assists you in dealing with life's difficulties. I work with women, adolescents and families struggling with anxiety, depression, addictions, faith-based issues, stress management, trauma, childhood sexual abuse, grief and relationship problems.